Have you ever wondered whether online dating jargon gets updated?
I mean, imagine how boring it would be if at all the same old dating terms were being used for years and years on end. Online dating would be highly disappointing.
Luckily for us all, there are always new dating trends in online dating in 2020.
They are so crazy and interesting that coining them is not really that hard.
In this quick read, we look at the online dating trends that will mostly apply to millennials. These are mostly derived from their behavior online in dating.
Millennials will totally relate to these: May be you have already come across some of these.
1. The Dating Trend:Elsa’d to a Ghost
Elsa’d refers to: The total ghosting of a partner or match. At one time you are all over each other and the next, you completely disappear or they disappear from your life.
This is a common habit of millennials as they tend to lose a sense of sensitivity for each other when dating.
How does it go down? You have a nice time when you meet a match. It is text after text or call after call.
One day you wake up and all that is gone may be because you did not know the 12 Best Bumble Openers.
2.The Dating Trend: Deja Eew on an Ex-Lover
Deja Eww refers to: The disgust that one feels when they meet an ex online or someone that they have previously dated.
How does it go down?
You are on Tinder. You scroll and swipe through matches and then a profile of an ex shows up.
You literately throw up at the screen.
3. The Dating Trend: Breadcrumbing Around the Bush
Breadcrumbing by definition: Is the act of beating around the bush in endless conversation and questions to a match.
What one really wants is the person but they just don’t tell them that they do. It annoys the match that someone talks to them without saying that they like them.
How does it go down?
When online on an app, say Bumble, you talk to a match. You share your stories, places of work or abode and at the end of the day, they never tell you that they like you.
It becomes mere and blank conversations that will not break the ice of, “I think I like you”.
4. The Dating Trend: Scrooging to Christmas Sadness
Scrooging is defined: when you dump someone at around Christmas time. It could also be related to other holidays important to someone such as a birthday.
How does it go down? One plays the thinking game with themselves and decides not to grant gifts to their lover or partner.
They end up making the decision to dump them. They also try to justify it with a series of excuses.
5. The Dating Trend: Cushioning to Justification
Cushioning is identified as: justifying why it is okay to break up with someone. It especially happens when one deep down knows that it is just wrong to do what they are doing.
How does it go down?
When one either has an undecided mind or is simply a narcissist, they will try to justify to the match why they cannot see each other.
Usually they make it sound so okay that the person being dumped will not even be mad.
They use lines such as, “It was me that was the problem”. “It is really me that is unfocused and not you”.
I call these kind of people narcissists. They just break hearts and pretend it is okay. They also try to friend zone those who they dump so that they don’t feel guilty.
It would have helped them to know about Married Person? How to Make the Most Out of Tinder.
6.The Dating Trend: Cookie-jarring to Emotional Safety
Cookie-jarring is: The one trick that involves you keeping contacts with several matches while dating so that you are not left all alone. I honestly do this. No, I am not apologizing.
How does it happen?
Well, don’t I know it so well? We do not like being ghosted, left alone or just dumped.
Therefore, we keep in touch with several matches so that we can protect ourselves from a possibility of being dumped or ghosted. It makes one feel safer when they keep several contacts while dating.
They however forget that they can be found out with the Tinder Search: How to Find Someone’s Profile.
7. The Dating Trend: Keanu-ing to Everyone’s Surprise
Keanu-in is: the absolute surprise that people have when you finally choose a date.
How does it go down?
It happens when you have a series of matches to choose from but you end up choosing the least likely to be matched with you. You just do not fit.
8. The Dating Trend: Outsourcing to Dating Advice
Outsourcing is: when one uses their friends to do all the breaking of ice for them, send messages for them and even get a phone number out of a match. Is this why we were told to be careful when meeting people online?
How does it go down?
You create a profile on Tinder or Badoo, may be Bumble. You ask a friend who is seemingly hotter and smarter to write a bio for you, inbox matches and get you their contacts.
You have them share with you ideas on what to say or do while communicating with a match online.
9. The Dating Trend: You-Turn Until you Drop
The You Turn refers to: the ultimate mistake that 99 percent of people make while dating. They think that they have fallen in love, get all over each other, make promises and at the end of the day or a few months, they are not so sure of the relationship.
They therefore choose to try again elsewhere and if that fails, they try in yet another place. They go round and round.
How does it go down?
You meet someone on Tinder. She is sexy, attractive and very nice. You exchange contacts, may be even have sex but after some weeks, you realize that she may not be really appealing to you.
Some of your issues are real whereas others are just in your head. At the end of the day, you end up leaving her.
10. The Dating Trend: JekyllingOn an Ex
Jerkylling: is the obsessive act of being totally sweet with a match and making them feel so good. However, should they push away your advances, you feel so mad and get to the point of hurting them.
How does it go down?
Matches contact on a dating site.
They feel alive to be together virtually. All is just going fine with daily chats and sweet messaging or conversations.
The moment of truth comes when one wants to go deeper into the relationship and the other party turns them away.
It really pisses them off to be turned down and sweet conversations are replaced with animalistic insults, threats or other terrible things.
Both men and women do this.
11. Tinder Trend: Emoji and No Real Talk
This refers to the increased use of emojis to send messages on Tinder.
How does it go down?
Tinder recently became more favorable to the LGBTQ community and they have been using the rainbow emoji a lot in their conversations.
There has also been a rapid rise in emoji use among the straight users.
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12. The Dating Trend: Vulturing to Scraps
Vulturing is the holding on to hope when a relationship is clearly failing and one stays positive minded that they could still salvage something out of it.
How does it go down?
When one is combated with a realization that they will lose their relationship, they live in denial and do not want to accept that things are falling apart.
They therefore may try too hard or just wait it out in the hope that they could still get some money, friends with benefits or just some, “let’s hang out once in a while”.
Conclusion
You have been dating, may be for a while now.
- What do you think of my list?
- Does it make sense to you?
- Which one was your most personal experience among these ten interesting new trends in online dating?
My verdict is that, some online dating trends are good whereas others are just bad.
It is good to have a fall back option just in case matches disappoint us and it is also good to protect ourselves from heartbreaks.
However, it is unfair to solicit for money where people want love or intimacy and that is not a good online dating trend.
While dating, always do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
